Oh, it's really just like riding a bike
That's what people say when they refer to something they have learned and will now endeavour to do again. Maybe after a long time. Usually without thinking about it. It implies just hopping on and it will be okay.But what this expression doesn't relate is how 'riding a bike' was learned. You didn't learn it by reading about it, you didn't learn it by doing more research, you didn't learn it by watching yet another video about it. You learned it, by doing it. Actually, you learned by not doing it. You learned by falling off, by being wobbly, by falling off again and again and again. You may have learned with trainer wheels. And when you took those off, you had to learn again. You kept falling off, you kept getting up. You learned by persevering. The same with eating with a spoon. Or driving a car. Or cooking. Or learning to walk. Just ask how long that took you... Did you ever sit down and say to yourself: 'This walking business, just isn't for me...? I suck and I'll never be any good at it...' No. You didn't! You just got up again. And you learned from every single time you fell over. It turns out changing any form of behaviour is much the same. You do it again and again and again. And eventually the new thing starts to stick more and more. But it doesn't happen over night. It would be lovely but it's not reality. Hence creating any kind of new neurological pathways in your brain starts with being willing to fall off a few times first. The key word is: being willing to fall off... Then you can start learning from every single time it didn't work. Well it did work, just not the way you expected it to. Or exactly the way you planned it. But it worked regardless. It seems this strategy for learning is true for most things in life. So, go on, do it again. You'll get there. For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275
A weight off your mind
Lose weight in the mind first, and then in the body. Diets simply don't work in the long term. Lose weight by taking control for good.Our brain does not react well to the word 'diet'. It feels threatened at a survival level. So, it goes into a primitive phase of 'famine', so when we resume eating again, even if it is sensible, our body will store on to the fat incase we go into famine again. Therefore, our weight yo-yo's. Hypnotherapy helps you move towards your ideal weight in a steady and lifestyle maintained way. Lose weight in your mind - The brain controls the body. When we take intellectual control over our relationship with food and our lifestyle choices, these incremental changes have a positive effect on our bodies. A fitter mind leads to a fitter body. Mind over Matter - Hypnotherapy helps you focus on what you want to achieve and helps you remain motivated and solution driven to be able to move towards your wonderful goal of controlled weight loss in a steady and incremental way. The Mind Gym - The brain learns new habits simply by repetition. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you come up with new and improved habits and necessary changes of lifestyle that will contribute to a fitter and healthier you. and... Relax When the brain is in the trance state, it is 20 times more relaxed and releases two positive chemicals: serotonin and dopamine. These chemicals help to remain confident and motivated to keep the weight off. For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275
Feeling anxious or stressed out?
The time to relax, is most important when you feel you don't have time for it!Anxiety is a normal primitive reaction in the brain to alert us to threat and causes a feeling of 'stress' in the mind and the body. However, it is only useful if we are actually in danger. If we are not, then this level of alertness and stress limits our rational perception to life and and can be detrimental to our well being. Hypnotherapy helps you relax, and bring your levels of anxiety right down. Does Stress limit your life? Do you feel like you can't cope with situations and events in your life that you could previously? If so, you may have what we call a full 'stress bucket', which is a metaphorical vessel in our brains indicating that it's time to relax and empty the bucket. Are you under pressure? Do you feel that the small things in life are getting to you? Has your level of tolerence gone down and irritability gone up? If so, this suggests that your anxiety levels are too high and you may need to address things before they escalate. Is panic attacking you? When we feel panic, this is the brain's last attempt to get you out of a perceived threatening situation. This is good if you are in real danger, but if you are not, this can be a very limiting place to find yourself. Do you feel paranoid? Paranoia is a very debilitating condition, stopping us from performing the simplest of tasks and limit our social interactions. We are in danger of isolating ourselves into depression if we do not tackle this negative state of mind. For more information or to book an initial consultation so we can tailor your individual plan for you together, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275
Learn to face your fears
We fear the unknown. When we learn to face the fear, it becomes a 'known', and the fear disappears.
Fear is designed to stop us. Fear keeps us safe on a subconscious level. However, when our fears and phobias take control over us, then we are in danger of not living in a free and liberated way.
Fear affecting your choices?
Are you governed by what you do or don't do by your fear or your phobia? If so, you are not in control over your choices and your fears are controlling your life choices. You can take back the control again, you just need to learn how.
Fear gripping your mind?
Are you convincing yourself that you can live with the fear, work around the fear, avoid the fear or even pretend the fear doesn't exist. If this is the case, then the fear has it's grip on your intellect and you'll be pleased to hear, you can learn to take control again.
Fears getting worse?
Does your fear feel worse than it did, almost like a weed in the garden that has overgrown and taken over? Well, you will be pleased to hear that hypnotherapy helps like an organic weedkiller, and helps you see the beautiful garden in your mind again.
Fear or Phobia?
A fear response can be useful to keep us safe and out of danger. However, a phobic response is a panic and anxiety based reaction that is designed to completely stop us in our tracks. These reactions are primitive and usually not necessary in our modern world.
Here at Tammy Foley Hypnotherapy in Pembrokeshire, we take things slowly, at your pace, and together find the way through the depression. You will learn to take control over your mind in a safe and supported way.
Your Hypnotherapy programme is tailored specifically for you to help you identify the ideal goal, and supports your progress in a way that is gentle and subtle.
Your action steps become apparent along the way that are achievable to your own suitability and pace. The actual sessions on the couch are designed to get your mind in a positive trance state, where you learn how to relax at a deep level.
During this trance-like relaxation, your brain is working at least 70 times as hard for you accessing your own internal resources and abilities within you that will be useful for you to move along the path of your purpose in a measured and disciplined way.
Your focus will improve as well as your confidence.
Trance is of course a natural state that our brain finds itself in approximately every 6-7 mins. The brain needs to be in this state often to be able to process events and experiences that are happening around us on every sensory level. The brain is like a sophisticated computer processor that responds and reacts through what is being coded into it, and then performs the operations and tasks that are necessary to function.
When we go into trance on the hypnotherapy couch, this experience is called REM and is very similar to a deep relaxation, where, your body feels comfortably heavy, but your mind feels comfortably light. you begin to notice a detachment from the everyday thoughts and it's almost like the drifty, floaty feeling you have just before you wake up in the morning, where you are not quite awake, but not quite asleep.
This state is hugely beneficial, as your brain is at it's optimum resting point, but also at it's optimum productivity. So, all suggestions that are positive and solution focused will be taken on board and given an action plan by you when you return to your daily tasks.
For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275
Tammy Foley is a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire
Get Ready For Christmas Time!
The party season is almost upon us and although it is often assumed that everyone enjoys this time of year, for many that is simply not the case. For a whole variety of reasons, we can sometimes need a little help to make our life sparkle during the festive season.
Seasonal weather can always have an effect in one way or another on our emotions, with the summer time bringing visions of holidays, sunshine and bikinis to mind. When we think of the summer, we tend to lean towards feelings of lightness, and wanting to be light and feel right within ourselves. This is often the most common time when people will embark upon a diet in order for them to look fantastic in that brightly coloured bikini or shorts.
By the time winter season arrives, we are feeling a little cooler and are ready to wrap up, but wait a minute…….isn’t it party dress season? Where we have Christmas Day, office parties, friends round for lunch, as well as family gatherings, neighbours popping in and not forgetting New Years Eve too! Just because it's not hot outside, doesn't mean that we don't want to look and feel our best, as well as enjoy that sense of confidence that feeling and looking good can bring. However, we all know that the downside to this is over indulgence!
This is why Christmas time, as lovely as it is, can be a very challenging time for most of us. Yes, we tend to enjoy all of those lovely goodies and booze, but the over-indulgence and sheer quantity of food that covers pretty much most of December (with invites, parties, and gatherings), it does tend to lead us into having those extra bits and bobs that we wouldn't normally have during any other month, including the extra food in our kitchen cupboards.
Now we all know that over doing anything is something that throws us out of balance, and in moderation most things are ok most of the time. However, with all of the temptations that surround us, it does make it extra difficult at times for us to be mindful or to ignore that inner urge to grab another piece of that delightful cake, or that crispy roasted potato, dripping in gravy.
The good news is that not all is lost, and with the application of a little hypnosis you could be enjoying your festive time just as much as anyone else, where you will be the one who is in control! Not the shops, marketing agencies, adverts or relatives who demand you eat up a little more. No, instead you will be the one who decides what you eat, and what you choose to place in your mouth for your own reasons and your own well-being.
Imagine if you walked into a shop and spotted the perfect outfit for Christmas? Imagine how good you would feel when you slip into that outfit and feel that extra sparkle, feeling a little bit special and excited? Now imagine walking into a room or function with that same feeling. Just how good would that feel! Would you walk a little taller, or feel a little slimmer? How would it affect your choices if food was also placed in the same room?
This is the version of you at your best. You deserve to look and feel good inside, but this all starts with change. Hypnotherapy can help you gain control over the Christmas season. I can help you cope with those moments of weakness, control the temptations and seasonal cravings. The brain controls the body. When we take intellectual control over our relationship with food and our lifestyle choices, these incremental changes have a positive effect on our bodies. A fitter mind leads to a fitter body.
For more information, please contact Tammy Foley, a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire.
Call 07792 706 275 to book your initial consultation.