Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

Get Ready For Christmas Time!

The party season is almost upon us and although it is often assumed that everyone enjoys this time of year, for many that is simply not the case. For a whole variety of reasons, we can sometimes need a little help to make our life sparkle during the festive season.

Seasonal weather can always have an effect in one way or another on our emotions, with the summer time bringing visions of holidays, sunshine and bikinis to mind. When we think of the summer, we tend to lean towards feelings of lightness, and wanting to be light and feel right within ourselves. This is often the most common time when people will embark upon a diet in order for them to look fantastic in that brightly coloured bikini or shorts.

By the time winter season arrives, we are feeling a little cooler and are ready to wrap up, but wait a minute…….isn’t it party dress season? Where we have Christmas Day, office parties, friends round for lunch, as well as family gatherings, neighbours popping in and not forgetting New Years Eve too! Just because it's not hot outside, doesn't mean that we don't want to look and feel our best, as well as enjoy that sense of confidence that feeling and looking good can bring.  However, we all know that the downside to this is over indulgence!

This is why Christmas time, as lovely as it is, can be a very challenging time for most of us. Yes, we tend to enjoy all of those lovely goodies and booze, but the over-indulgence and sheer quantity of food that covers pretty much most of December (with invites, parties, and gatherings), it does tend to lead us into having those extra bits and bobs that we wouldn't normally have during any other month, including the extra food in our kitchen cupboards. 

Now we all know that over doing anything is something that throws us out of balance, and in moderation most things are ok most of the time. However, with all of the temptations that surround us, it does make it extra difficult at times for us to be mindful or to ignore that inner urge to grab another piece of that delightful cake, or that crispy roasted potato, dripping in gravy.

The good news is that not all is lost, and with the application of a little hypnosis you could be enjoying your festive time just as much as anyone else, where you will be the one who is in control! Not the shops, marketing agencies, adverts or relatives who demand you eat up a little more. No, instead you will be the one who decides what you eat, and what you choose to place in your mouth for your own reasons and your own well-being.

Imagine if you walked into a shop and spotted the perfect outfit for Christmas? Imagine how good you would feel when you slip into that outfit and feel that extra sparkle, feeling a little bit special and excited? Now imagine walking into a room or function with that same feeling. Just how good would that feel! Would you walk a little taller, or feel a little slimmer? How would it affect your choices if food was also placed in the same room?

This is the version of you at your best. You deserve to look and feel good inside, but this all starts with change. Hypnotherapy can help you gain control over the Christmas season. I can help you cope with those moments of weakness, control the temptations and seasonal cravings. The brain controls the body.  When we take intellectual control over our relationship with food and our lifestyle choices, these incremental changes have a positive effect on our bodies.  A fitter mind leads to a fitter body.


For more information, please contact Tammy Foley, a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire.

Call 07792 706 275 to book your initial consultation.


Does Anxiety Keep Knocking At Your Door?

Are you Living with Anxiety? Here are 3 simple & effective ways you can get rid of it.

If Anxiety has moved into your head and is taking over your life, here is a explanation about what anxiety is and how you can deal with it.

You can then do a practical exercise to work with this stubborn state of mind.

By the end of this article you will have some simple strategies to help issue the anxiety with an eviction notice to move out with immediate effect (if that is something you feel ready to do)

 

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a strong feeling that the emotional part of your mind gives you to alert you to take action.

 

Think of anxiety like a homeless security guard that sits outside your mind constantly watching out for threat and danger. That is its job.

 

The Anxiety Security Guard has a very useful role. It is supposed to be on watch out for negatives and danger. When it senses trouble, it is meant to ring the doorbell of your mind to give you a warning. Once you hear the bell, you can open the door, check out the situation, thank the Anxiety Security Guard for the security message and then close the door again and react accordingly.

But, it’s not very comfortable outside, it’s cold and wet and windy. So, if the Anxiety Security Guard thinks it has an opportunity of refuge, it will come inside the mind, get warm and dry and make itself at home. If the door of your mind is left ajar, the Anxiety Security Guard can then slowly and quietly start to move in, and that’s when it has over stepped the threshold and becomes a problem.

If we don’t understand that the Anxiety Security Guard is meant to live outside and make the mistake of being too polite and allow it in, it can become a very stubborn squatter and can live dormant in your space like an unwelcome visitor or a guest that has outstayed their welcome.

Once the Anxiety Security Guard gets comfortable within your mind, it becomes extremely resistant to change, and moves in to the personal space of your thoughts. This is dangerous because the Anxiety Security Guard is trained to be negative (to keep you safe), so the Anxiety Security Guard  begins to change your positive thoughts into negative ones.

Extreme anxiety makes you feel small, worthless, fearful and isolated. Eventually anxiety can start controlling your thoughts and encourages you to think miserable thoughts – like it does.

When we feel miserable and worthless, it is very difficult to change. Our mindset becomes weaker and then it is difficult to find any strength or coping mechanisms. It is difficult to ask it to move out. Anxiety is now living permanently in your mind, and to make matters worse, you still pay the rent, and it lives there rent free. Laughing at you cowering in the corner.

Now you know why anxiety is useful if it stays doing its job outside your mind, but when it comes in it becomes overbearing, destructive and pollutes your thinking. So, how do we get rid of it?

 

Why Does Anxiety Have to Feel So Bad? (The Science Bit)

 

Anxiety has a very useful purpose to some extent, but why does it have to make us feel so bad?

Did you know that anxiety has to create a negative feeling, so we sit up and take notice, and take appropriate action.

The feeling of anxiety has to be a very uncomfortable feeling that makes us feel on edge and keeps us on high alert.

That uncomfortable feeling releases adrenaline into the system. Adrenaline helps our body and brain switch into a stress mode. Stress mode makes us react sharply, increase our strength and resilience and can be a powerful motivator to take action. The stress reaction is designed to save your life when you are in danger.

Anxiety is the brain’s way of ringing the fire alarm telling us we may have forgotten something, or we are going to be in trouble or there is actually a fire. The adrenaline can help us quickly react and fight that fire to put it out, or find a rapid exit strategy to run away as fast as we can so we stay safe.

Anxiety is a good indicator to help us realise that something is not quite right, and if we really are in danger, we can stay safe, and essentially stay alive.

So, you will now agree, that it is useful to know that anxiety can be an indicator to help us when we are in a spot of bother. The fuel that anxiety releases (adrenaline) helps us react quickly and sharply to sort out the problem – to rapidly run away, hide or fight if necessary.

When we feel the brain’s alarm bell ringing, we then move into a part of our brain that is reactive and we then move into fight, flight or freeze. This is our primitive brain’s survival mechanism. We need it to be working well.

What we don’t want – is our primitive brain to stay switched on, because this means that we are being fuelled by stress, and that does not feel good!

We want to be able to keep the intellectual part of our brain switched on to look for a solution to the problem that anxiety presents us with. This means we are fuelling our lives with intellect, and that feels better!

Our intellectual mind stays switched on when we get practical and when we make a plan. 

Do You Want to Do a Practical Exercise?

 

1) Get a piece of paper and draw this Anxiety Scale:

 

(No Anxiety at all)  0—1—2—3—4—5—6—7—8—9—10  (Panic Attack)

 

Rate how anxious you are feeling right now. What number are you now on that scale? Put a circle around it on your piece of paper.

If you are around 5 or below – you are in a state of equilibrium and harmony, if you are above 5, you are slightly out of equilibrium.

 

2) Think of the number you would like to be by the time you have finished reading this article.

Write this underneath the scale:

I WANT TO BE  _____ (Insert new number)

Lastly, I’m going to ask you to imagine something, using your powerful imagination.

 

3) Have a think about this question for a moment…

Q: If you were feeling like the new number, what would you notice, feel and be able to do?

Imagine you knew the answer to this question. Everyone uses their imagination in a unique way, some people close their eyes, some people look up into the sky, some people visualise a daydream.

So, do what feels right to you right now. Imagine you know what to write down. take a few moments to get your imagination working for you.

Just for a few moments, imagine you are feeling like this new number. If you were this number, how would you know? What would you feel? What would you be able to do, even if it was a tiny thing. Perhaps think of a few things you would notice about yourself, your expression, your activities if you were this new number.

MY LIST

I would notice __________________

I would feel ____________________

I would be able to do ______________

 

>>> Your Plan of Action <<<

  

Look at that scale of yours again, and I want you to check how close you are to your new number.

Now, ask yourself this one question:

What is the first thing I will now do on my list?

…and I’ll stop here, so you can go and get on with it.

 

For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275 

Tammy Foley is a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire

School Time!

I can nearly hear the sigh of relief from some parents as their little darlings are returning to school after the summer holidays!

Whilst it may be a relief for parents it can be quite a stressful time for some youngsters. They may be moving up to a new class/year or just starting or changing school. These stresses/anxieties if not treated quickly can turn into full blown phobias and come out in all sorts of different ways. Sometimes these can be very subtle and you may not notice for a while, but usually they start to show extreme anxiety in the form of tummy aches, headaches, feeling sick and in some cases depression or self harming.

School Phobia/Refusal

As you will know, if your child suffers with school phobia (sometimes referred to as school refusal), trying to get your child to school can turn into a nightmare situation; they are likely to go into a full blown tantrum, which can be very disturbing for you as the parent. This phobia is thought to be present in 1 - 5% of the population.

If you have a youngster showing signs of anxiety/stress, seeking professional help before a bigger problem arises can be a prudent step. The sooner you can enlist help, the smaller the problem will be.

What you can do in the first instance:

  • Listen to your child and give them one to one attention - they need to feel that they are being listened to and that someone can help them with their anxiety or fears.
  • Always check with your GP that there is not a physical problem.
 

Learn to face your fears.

We fear the unknown. When we learn to face the fear, it becomes a 'known', and the fear disappears.

Fear is designed to stop us. Fear keeps us safe on a subconscious level.  However, when our fears and phobias take control over us, then we are in danger of not living in a free and liberated way.  

Fear affecting your choices?

Are you governed by what you do or don't do by your fear or your phobia?  If so, you are not in control over your choices and your fears are controlling your life choices.  You can take back the control again, you just need to learn how.

 


Fear gripping your mind?

Are you convincing yourself that you can live with the fear, work around the fear, avoid the fear or even pretend the fear doesn't exist.  If this is the case, then the fear has it's grip on your intellect and you'll be pleased to hear, you can learn to take control again.

 


Fears getting worse?

Does your fear feel worse than it did, almost like a weed in the garden that has overgrown and taken over?  Well, you will be pleased to hear that hypnotherapy helps like an organic weedkiller, and helps you see the beautiful garden in your mind again.

 


Fear or Phobia?

A fear response can be useful to keep us safe and out of danger.  However, a phobic response is a panic and anxiety based reaction that is designed to completely stop us in our tracks.  These reactions are primitive and usually not necessary in our modern world.

Here at Tammy Foley Hypnotherapy in Pembrokeshire, we take things slowly, at your pace, and together find the way through the depression. You will learn to take control over your mind in a safe and supported way.

Your Hypnotherapy programme is tailored specifically for you to help you identify the ideal goal, and supports your progress in a way that is gentle and subtle.  

Your action steps become apparent along the way that are achievable to your own suitability and pace.  The actual sessions on the couch are designed to get your mind in a positive trance state, where you learn how to relax at a deep level.  

During this trance-like relaxation, your brain is working at least 70 times as hard for you accessing your own internal resources and abilities within you that will be useful for you to move along the path of your purpose in a measured and disciplined way.  

Your focus will improve as well as your confidence.

Trance is of course a natural state that our brain finds itself in approximately every 6-7 mins.  The brain needs to be in this state often to be able to process events and experiences that are happening around us on every sensory level.  The brain is like a sophisticated computer processor that responds and reacts through what is being coded into it, and then performs the operations and tasks that are necessary to function.

When we go into trance on the hypnotherapy couch, this experience is called REM and is very similar to a deep relaxation, where, your body feels comfortably heavy, but your mind feels comfortably light.  you begin to notice a detachment from the everyday thoughts and it's almost like the drifty, floaty feeling you have just before you wake up in the morning, where you are not quite awake, but not quite asleep.

This state is hugely beneficial, as your brain is at it's optimum resting point, but also at it's optimum productivity.  So, all suggestions that are positive and solution focused will be taken on board and given an action plan by you when you return to your daily tasks.

 

For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275 

Tammy Foley is a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire

Depression is like a big dark cloud.

Do you feel like you have fallen into a dark well of despair? Hypnotherapy helps to shine through those gloomy days.

It seems like a lonely and unforgiving place to be.  The depressed brain is starved of positive chemicals and this literally restricts your ability to think clearly and resourcefully.

Hypnotherapy is designed to manage the chemistry inside your brain to help you move towards an optimistic outlook.

In the depressed brain the primitive part of the mind is much more active.  This part of the brain is normally very negative and worst case scenario focused.  This makes us feel hopeless and unable to see a way out. Depression takes away our confidence and our ability to remain rational and positive about ourselves and our situations.  We feel so low and need some help to get us boosted and back on track again.

Here at Tammy Foley Hypnotherapy in Pembrokeshire, we take things slowly, at your pace, and together find the way through the depression. You will learn to take control over your mind in a safe and supported way.

Your Hypnotherapy programme is tailored specifically for you to help you identify the ideal goal, and supports your progress in a way that is gentle and subtle.  

Your action steps become apparent along the way that are achievable to your own suitability and pace.  The actual sessions on the couch are designed to get your mind in a positive trance state, where you learn how to relax at a deep level.  

During this trance-like relaxation, your brain is working at least 70 times as hard for you accessing your own internal resources and abilities within you that will be useful for you to move along the path of your purpose in a measured and disciplined way.  

Your focus will improve as well as your confidence.

Trance is of course a natural state that our brain finds itself in approximately every 6-7 mins.  The brain needs to be in this state often to be able to process events and experiences that are happening around us on every sensory level.  The brain is like a sophisticated computer processor that responds and reacts through what is being coded into it, and then performs the operations and tasks that are necessary to function.

When we go into trance on the hypnotherapy couch, this experience is called REM and is very similar to a deep relaxation, where, your body feels comfortably heavy, but your mind feels comfortably light.  you begin to notice a detachment from the everyday thoughts and it's almost like the drifty, floaty feeling you have just before you wake up in the morning, where you are not quite awake, but not quite asleep.

This state is hugely beneficial, as your brain is at it's optimum resting point, but also at it's optimum productivity.  So, all suggestions that are positive and solution focused will be taken on board and given an action plan by you when you return to your daily tasks.

 

For more information or to book an initial consultation, call or text Tammy Foley on 07792 706275 

Tammy Foley is a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist practising near Tenby, Pembrokeshire